8 Steps to Take When You Like an Unbeliever: Should a Christian Date a Non-Christian?
And since dating is the first step toward marriage, it follows that Christians should not date non-Christians either. But many people think this is the ideal rather than the norm. I have met so many believers who-when times got tough or lonely-ditched that rule and started a relationship with an unbeliever. And sadly, that may be true, but being a Christian is about so much more than just being a moral person.
Being a believer means that your relationship with God has absolutely, entirely and clearly changed your life. If you are a believer and profess to have a relationship with Jesus Christ, there is no getting around the fact that this is by far the most influential relationship you will ever have.
Through marriage, you are choosing to become one body with another human being 2 Corinthians You are joining your hearts, your minds and your very bodies in an intimate and sacred connection.
At the end of the day, there is no replacing the deep intimacy that comes when you are physically, emotionally and spiritually connected to another human being. For Christians, marriage is about more than just companionship. Marriage is a glorious display of Christ and the Church-of sacrifice, and the laying down of our lives for one another.
If you hope to be, that should be your dream! Faith and spirituality are such important factors in our lives that those who have them in common tend to have a lower divorce rate. And i wanted to be married into a christian relationship. And i saw that he wasnt keen into converting. And for you christians out there with non christian partners, do your ever fully closely follow the bible anymore? If your do your wouldnt even consider dating a non christian. Dont mislead the non christian.
Because one believes in God and one doesnt. Hey there! Well, I really wanna take this time to really encourage you. And in the beginning, the person who is the perfect example of love is God. And if we say that God is sovereign, are we believing in His sovereignty that he will provide? QT etc. For the thing about the breakup, I know that it is definitely not easy.
But even during this season are you going to rely on Him?
And finally, something I felt to tell you. At the end of the day, as much as what people might say, are you still believing in what God says instead His Word? Yeah, because it must be a bad thing to accept people for who they are, as opposed to expecting them to BE to believe in your god.
But,I feel that God want you to break up with Him. Because,your dad has different testimony. And you are different. Your testimony will be different and your purpose will be different from others.
Stay strong and have faith in God. Stay strong. Follow His Words instead of others opinion. Trust and believe Him. I feel so sad when I read comments of people lashing back at the writer. I think the writer has done a good job at sharing her side of the story but it seems so many christians here have much to judge and criticise. As much as many of you have shared that she was too pushy in trying to bring Duncan to church, you should also understand that she was also trying to make things work.
Where its translation has been translated countless of times and it has been twisted into the words of humans. Unless you speak the origin Hebrew otherwise, I doubt the Bible gives actual accurate reasoning behind what she said.
So should Duncan bring her to a temple if he believes in taoism? Well done! Very well written. Thank you for taking God first in what you do. Maybe someday he will come to know God.
Maybe he will not. You can only continue to pray for him. But for you now, you need to love God and live the life He has in store for you.
Being yoked with a non - believer is definitely not it. He may not give you another man, you may remain single all your life, but doing the right thing is most important.
God will bless you in ways you may never think of.
My point of view, you did the right thing, but remember that we are the light of the world, we should share the light. Anyhow, it is your choice and with God nothing is impossible, He probably have something better for you instead.
Keep it up sister! Some countries have few religions in it.
Should I date a non-Christian?
Like in sg. To anyone is vaunarable to have to come together and more. Next egmalaysia in is a Muslim country. Malaysia is not a Muslim country, it is a Muslim majority country. The country is secular, just like Singapore, just that a bit of difference is made to accommodate for the fact that Muslims are the majority.
There is freedom of religion here, just that there is also one very special law not found in most other countries with Muslim majority: Malays must be Muslim and to convert to another religion is illegal. So all other religion must say: for non Muslim only in their books to avoid trouble. As for the girl, I would say true love is unconditional acceptance. However, if you are looking for marriage material, one of the most important thing to determine for the partner before even considering a relationship is to inquire into their religion and how serious they are in it.
If you proceed on with a partner of different faith, then learn to love unconditionally and draw boundaries to avoid arguments about topics which cannot be reconciled. Believing with you that one day, God will bring ur path across to someone who loves God and you since God is the one who put the desire for children in you.
I think there are a few things you may have expressed inaccurately. God is not there to break your relationship with Duncan. The reason I broke up with my ex girlfriend was because we were fundamentally different. The way we viewed homosexuality, the way we love our parents, the way we look at money, the way we look at the purpose of life.
All my views on how to live a good and righteous life came from the Bible. And the answer, I did not break up because of one word. It was because of how different we were. How should we teach our kids to manage money when we disagree on the value of wealth? How are we going to teach our kids whether homosexuality is wrong? And that is why we both decided to break up. The bond within the family would have been much stronger with love and values if she was Christian from the beginning.
It is everything. Stop being naive and think that relationships have nothing to do with religion. Christianity shows values of love and selflessness. Christianity teaches husbands to love their wives. And for children to obey and honor their parents. If both husband and wife loves God more than they love each other, they will know what true love and joy is. Because to love God is to obey Him.
Neither is he telling the wife to love her husband less.
God is trying to lead us to live perfect, joyful, beautiful lives. This is ironic on so many levels. He being the one who exudes loving kindness to people different nonetheless equal humans from him while you being someone who judge others for who they are. He who loves you despite differences in beliefs while you forcing him to change in order to love him in return.
This is the problem with many Christians that I have witnessed who tried to preach the word, and get people to come to church.
Yes, your intention was not bad at all, and is something I have to praise you for, because it was something that I am not able to do, and that is bringing someone to church. But intention is only one side of the coin. I am pretty sure your dad did not force your mother to come to church.
After all, God looks for the willingness of people to change their ways, no point in forcing something that will not end up meaningful and beneficial for both parties, same with your case. You should have just been more patient with him, he would have accepted Christ in the future, but what you did may have made him shut his doors permanently.
Still no reason to give up on him, you can still try to chabge his heart, but repair your relationship with him first! If you are reading this, Audrey A, thank God for your stance and for your courage to share at the expense of being judged harshly. You are only human. Your story is a timely reminder for me, so thank you and thank God.
They simply do not understand where you are coming from, even some who call themselves Christians. It is not simply about making the relationship work no matter the cost, making compromise upon compromise in order to reconcile the irreconcilable difference in beliefs.
Can a couple truly be one if their spirit is different? That marriage may be functional but it would be missing spiritual union. Some may think that this is being selfish or overly serious or very narrow-minded.
But stay strong and continue on the straight and narrow. They simply do not knoweven with you quoting Corinthians, they would still think from their own perspective.
God will choose His own. Faith is a gift not a choice or else man can boast. I think you need to understand the Bible more. God bless you.
Its sad to see all these comments of blame. I too made the same decision as you. Initially, I even patch back with him thinking that we could make this work that its merely a religion issue but we argued about our kids going to church, his ancestor stuffs, the 7th month stuffs, the temple stuffs, stuffs that you wont have to face if you are dating a Christian.
I do think about him sometimes since hes really someone significant in my life. But i always believe that God has already prepared the one for us and these are merely a passing. I pray for his salvation that he will saved one day.
Stay strong in faith. Thank you for such a sharing. It takes great faith to post what you believe. When God intentionally mean something, He means it. Your biblical worldview is right on such matters as well. Many a times we,Christians, forget that we are called to first love God.
That means to hold on to what He desires. Of course, we are failures as well. Some of us will change what God says for what suits our life.
Perspective 1: Yes, date her!
But it is intently clear that your view on this is true. Your earthly father is patient. That love that he shows your mother was the same as the love God taught him. But also, your mother was willing to listen and accept this God. I may just be planted as a seed and not the person who grow the seed. God has His plans for everyone and He will use other people and things around your boyfriend to draw him closer. I learn that I just have to be patient, not give up on on and praying every night that the seed will grow.
What I need to do is constantly pray for him and honour the God in him and leave the rest to God. Hope this helps. I very much can identify with your struggles, as a semi-free thinker Christian undergoing Catholic formation RCIA currently.
I separated with my gf of 1 year 10 months about a month ago due to similar reasons and foreseeable problems as you. For me and from understanding of canonical lawsunequal yoke in marriage is not a problem. Which is considered to be getting in the way of my free practice of the faith, namely the latter.
As such, it contravenes the agreement which the non-believer has sworn upon in front of the priest and bible. Right now I feel much happier dating a Christian girl from an independent evangelical background as we are able to share much more of ourselves with each other. Your breakup story could have just been about the incompatibility of belief which does not put him down for not believeing in your religion and admits that the fault in the relationship failing goes both way as it always has in every relationship.
Really hope you find one someone compatible and that you both have honest conversations that leads to enduring relationships. Religion is a relationship between you and your God if you do believe in one. Religion is personal. We should learn to respect every religion, and know that no one religion is superior to the other.
And neither of you are wrong.
Religion is a choice, and so is love. Hi dear, I decided to write this as a fellow believer. I read through some of the comments and feel like you might be strongly affected by thier words; thus question your decision. You made this decision because God told you too and nothing should cause you to have doubts on what God has decided for you.
As my pastor said before, why care about how others righteously condemn you when you are a beloved child of God and what they say can never take that away from you. I do understand why you want to marry a fellow believer though.8 Steps to Take When You Like an Unbeliever: Should a Christian Date a Non-Christian?
Without your other half being one that loves and knows God intimately, you will not be able to shared half of your life with a person you so dearly love and cherish. Trust God dear, this is a test of faith and trust, just keep believing in Him. God will place you at the right place and the right time.
I believe that that man was not right for you and thats why God did what He did. As my pastor also mentioned before, God puts people in your life to bless you and He will also put put people in your life to teach you. Hence, I feel that this should be just taken as a lesson from God. Him trying to change you to become more of a woman of God. However, there are some things that the people in the comments have said that I think are vaild.
They should be taken as constructive critisism and nof personal attacks. I think that you should refrain from imposing your beliefs on others.
We can do all things through Christ who strengthens me! If you need anything that is seemingly impossible, pray, believe and have faith. You should not go going around trying to change what he believes. If he is meant to be a child of God, guide him towards God and let God do the rest.
However, know that God has given man free choice and the person you know may not chose to grab the hand that God has held out. Pray, ask for faith and ask for help. He wants you to rest and let Him work for you. Hence sister, just trust in the Lord and listen to His word.
This is Not a Typical Dating App. New Studies show that it's over easier to get laid when messaging girls who have asked for sex Relevant Magazine Dating Non Christian in the last hour. Don't messaging stuck-up bitches on Tinder who never respond, / May 31, I Kissed Dating a Non-Christian Goodbye - "I don't understand why we can break up over something that I cannot understand I cannot believe you chose your God over me!" Those were his . The only relevant Scriptures I know of are these: 1 Corinthians 7 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which ha.
U can have urs and i can have mine. This is the reason why the world is in so much trouble these days. Religion and race. We all fail to understand one another. For me, I would prioritise dating a good person first.
You basically tried to make a blind person love the blue color because you do. Sad story, sad ending.
I never would have considered dating a non-Christian. Not in a million years. In fact, "loves God and puts Him first" was always on the top of the list of what I was looking for. But then the frustration set in. It started as impatience, but it soon developed into a rampaging beast of . #3 Christian singles are having a hard time meeting other Christian singles. I think this is a really legitimate concern when it comes to Christian dating, and one in which I hope and pray the Church will listen and begin to fill the needs of this generation. Too many churches are not offering a way for their Christian Singles to meet. The question 'Should I date a non-Christian?' is one that is no doubt debated among Christians all the time. The reason isn't because it's a stimulating academic topic, but because many Christians are dating, or potentially will date, non-Christians.
As many commenters are god believers, i shall share my part as non-Christian point of view and look at a bigger picture here. I think no one should deviate away logical and facts and the way of life in this society like instead of thanking doctors who operated you, you thanked the god instead which lack of recognition of efforts of someone who did the best to cure you which is lack of appreciation to the one who supposed to be received.
Thats include religion. No gods or even somebody ever tells u how to live your life. You made your own decision and pave your path and manage your own and create victories your own becoz you worked hard for it and deserved what you get. This shows your sincerity towards others and compassion not because of superior being but people among you. Love comprises by understanding what they been through and struggles in their lives and paying attention what your bf or loves one pain and giving them as much support and hope for them not enforcing someone to believe your religion to gain happiness which just simply creating more conflicts in ur relationship.
If you want to determine to win over your problems, you work hard for it and make it happens not just simply praying god and wait things to happen. I respect ur belief but never go too overboard to obstruct the way you live and seeing the world.
Thanks for your post. I am getting really close with an unbelieving guy and this encouraged me to not take things further like officially date him to avoid heartache. It hurts, it hurts so bad but I know I have to trust that God is in control and the he will empower me to get over this and to have joy in Him and other good and noble things in life. I can relate to many things you said, like wanting someone you can worship with and have great talks about Jesus with. Also the subtle strain of not having Jesus at the center of our relationship does weigh heavily eventually.
Thanks again and I will pray for you. If you see this please pray for me, this is a hard situation to be in.
Dec 09, And since dating is the first step toward marriage, it follows that Christians should not date non-Christians either. But many people think this is the ideal rather than the norm. I have met so many believers who-when times got tough or lonely-ditched that rule and started a . May 05, In truth, making this verse about not being in a romantic relationship with a non-believer isn't a good interpretation of what Paul was really getting at when he wrote these words. We really want this verse (or any verse) to be all about dating and marriage to a non-Christian because it would make this whole conversation a lot easier. Sep 17, So, let's come to dating now. What is that? Is dating an expression of a desire that another person has become more precious to me than God? Is it? And if it is, I don't care if the person is a believer or an unbeliever, Christian or non-Christian. You can date a Christian and be sinning.
God Bless:. Hi, I shared the same sediment as you.
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I understand how it feel and having so many what ifs in your mind. Over the years, God has revealed that indeed Christ is enough for me. Some commented that the author should not force her belief onto her ex-boyfriend if she loves him and what she did was not the way. Then I would truly question what is the intention of all these commentators. Is it out of love for this author that they comment? It sounds like they are trying to force what they believe is right onto the author rather than accepting what she believes.
To the author, marriage is sacred, wonderful and it is a covenant. When both one man and one woman enter into this covenant, guided by the truth, their marriage would display the closeness and intimacy between the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Though they are two, they are so close to each other that they are one just like our Triunion God. Though they are three persons, they are one God. People who cannot see this would never be able to tell you the amazing vision of the marriage, or rather they would tell you based on their experience.
However that is only a small part of the whole truth. So I would suggest that you follow the Creator of the marriage and His truth about the marriage and He will personally bless you and through His creation, marriage as well.
To the rest I say I, not the Lord that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? I have seen many chrisitians - non Christians couples getting married for decades happily. Their secrets are mutual respect and acceptance.
Hi Audrey, I understand what you went through. For me, it was one of my best friends who had asked me out. He liked me and I, him. I thought we were perfect for each other; only thing was he was a non-believer. I cried out to God, seeking Him, waiting for an answer. Just as you, I very well knew 2 Corinthians but my heart was stubborn. It was after many weeks that I finally made up my mind and rejected him. To chase after His heart, I first needed to break my own heart. Four months have pass, sometimes I still regret it but I am also thankful that God gave me the strength and wisdom to do what I did.
I will praise Him even when it hurts. Some interesting points raised in the comment section. God is most gracious and is able to work even in situations He is clearly against.