My Ex Is Dating Someone Else Already And It Hurts - Should I Do No Contact?
Dating someone new but still miss my ex
When do you know when it's really over? When do you know it's time to move on? And how do you move on? I dated my ex for two years, and I can honestly say I was never more sure that someone was my soulmate.
We had a bond that no one could break, and I just knew he was "the one. But with any great young love, things aren't always as perfect as they appear.
The honeymoon phase wears out, problems arise, trust issues come up and eventually you break up. A few months after we broke up, I did what every freshly single girl does.
I cried my eyes out for a week and then I downloaded Tinder. It wasn't hard to find dates. In fact, for a while my friends labeled me a serial dater. I was addicted to meeting new guys and judging them quietly in my head over dinner. However, there was a problem with every guy I went out with. None of them could keep my interest. They either hated cats, didn't like the sports I did or chewed their food so weirdly that they bugged me.
I never failed to find a flaw in every potential guy I dated after my ex.
It was a continuous cycle of me telling myself I didn't love my ex anymore, meeting a guy, finding something wrong with him and then starting all over again. Reflecting back on my dating experience, post-great love, I realized there was nothing wrong with any of the men I had gone on dates with OK, maybe a few of them. I was the one with the problem.My Ex Is Dating Someone New!
Subconsciously, I was comparing every single guy I met to my ex and this stupid pedestal I had placed him on. He's really good to me. But for some reason, the past few months of our relationship I havent been able to stop thinking about my ex. I dated my ex for a year and a half, and left him because things were getting rocky and I had met the guy i'm with now.
I just don't understand why I can't stop thinking about him. I have to hear from him every once in a while to stay content, which gets me in trouble with my current boyfriend. What should I do? I can't keeping going about things this way. I dont want to hurt myself or anyone else.
Please talk to your boyfriend about it and question whether you should be on your own for a while. Meaning ending things. You have gone from one relationship into another and maybe need sometime alone to discover what and who you really want. But please don't just not do anything. You're thinking about him for a reason. I was in your boyfriend's situation.
My ex wasn't over his. We were together 11 months and then his ex came back.
He was confused because he said he had feelings for me but obviously still had left over feelings for her too. I told him he should be on his own for a while. The amount of time spent with someone means nothing, its the feelings you develop for someone that mean everything.
I feel like everything we had was probably a lie and I feel for someone who wwas still thining of someone else. I feel like I was nothing but I still can't shift these feelings I have for him.
Don't put your bf through that. I know it's diffuclt to get over someone and maybe I am wrong and being biased cos I've been on the receiving end of it. I know you can't stop how you think and feel but if you believe in the slightest that you're thinking of him because you still have feelings for him, it is not fair on your boyfriend.
I know you don't want to hurt him but you will more if you carry on like this and he finds out. He will become as confused as you are.
And it will not be easy to forget about your exhusband because you have the bond your children. I would advise you to get profetional help. You really need some counciling girl.
What To Do If You're In A Relationship & Still Thinking About Your Ex
My ex bf left me because he had feelings for the one before me. We dated for 5 months while they apparently dated for 2 months. I got an sms from him saying that his belonged another. In the weeks leading up to breakup I realised I had fallen in love with him.
Its now 7 months down the line and i still think of him eveyday.
I'm with someone else, but can't stop thinking about my ex By sk7mf, 9 years ago on Dating. , K. I'm with someone else, but can't stop thinking about my ex. I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 6 months, and we are now living together. Everything is perfect in our relationship, I broke up with him but still can't stop. My ex is dating someone else, are we officially over? Are you wondering if you still have a chance of getting your ex back if he or she is dating someone new? What can you do in order to reignite the flame between you when your ex has a new boyfriend or girlfriend? Mar 05, Home>Forums>Relationships>I'm in a new relationship but still miss my Ex terribly:(New Reply This topic contains 42 replies, has 29 voices, and was last ated by Lila 1 year, 2 months ago. Viewing 15 posts - 1 through 15 (of 43 total) 1 2 3 > Author Posts March 29, at pm # DavidParticipant I've been with my Ex in "on and off" relationship for about 2 years.
Theres been no contact for 6 months. I've been through a torrid time emotionally.
Replaying the relationship in head constantly. The truth is he lied to me and used me as his rebound. He knew he was not happy with me but still lead me on. The way in which he broke up with me was extremely hurtful. Cutting me out of his life and not showing an emotion has destroyed my confidence.
I've found that trying to explain myself to others doesn't always help. Its just 5 months they say. Ur frustration will lead u to hurt ur bf even more. Ur actions and words that are a result of ur frustration will hurt in the end.
He doesn't know what u feel. He probably thinks u feel for him as he does for u. Dont reel him in any longer. But dont be nasty. He may still need u. Be there for him but breakup kindly. Dont be a dog as my ex is. I am married for 3 years and we were together for 4 year total My ex bf and I were together for 8 years I think about my ex bf more now after my husband was aggressive toward me physically during an argument.
He threatened me but never hurt me And only happened once, I warned him if it happens again I would leave for sure I think I would have left if I didn't have a daughter who just turned two. It was hurtful emotionally Tho he's trying to be a better dad and husband. After that incidence, I think of my ex even more and wonder what could have being if we had stayed together, if I had just giving it a chance.
There's a sense of regret even tho u can never know I would really be happier if I had stayed with my ex And the reason I left was because i was unhappy and didnt feel appreciated I was with my ex for 5 yrs I left him he gambled I couldn't take it anymore I left I found someone straight away he is perfect we been together for a year and a half but I think about my ex all the time I feel like I fight with myself every day weather I should go back I can't help talk to my ex he has changed he has two jobs he is doing really well and still want s me back after I broke his heart and thats what kills me he still loves me till this day which I think its ment to be how can someone still love me after all I have done to him.
It's tough when you have a long history with someone and whenever there's a down to your current relationship I guess it's inevitable to think what could have been with another while forgetting why you broke up the first place However even tho I can analyze logically it still doesn't stop making me wonder if things would have been different otherwise. But the thing is maybe he wouldn't have changed himself for better if you didnt leave him.
The problem about going back to him is whether there will be any resentment from him or not. There was one time I briefly broke up with my ex and dated another then we got back together after he begged me to, but there was always resentment coming from him and of course the things I was unhappy about never changed for better So we were always fighting But I made my choice and the best thing to do is to try to be content and find other pleasure in life or try pretend to be happy and think positively to keep happy and one day we will be Wow I'm in same situation me my ex broke up cuz things was also geting real rocky.
Iv bean with my current for almost 5 moths and still in contact wit my ex its killing me cuz I really don't want to brake my current hart for him to Evan know this but I feel there are quality in my ex that I don't get wit my current but vise versa wit my current. I have left my ex bf 11 months ago and came in relation with my present bf.
I was with my ex girlfriend for almost 3 years. We split up 3 months ago and have not seen each other since.
Talk To Your Partner Once You've Figured Out Your Feelings
We have not spoken to each other since then either. There were text messages between us up until 8 weeks ago. The messages were short in content from her and I stopped contacting her when she told me that 'we weren't worth it'.
To me one person cannot replace another. If you had a relationship breakdown you will know that in many cases you do not stop having feeling for that person or indeed find them sexually unattractive. I was married to my wife for 25 years. She dec. If you're still heartbroken over your ex, then you shouldn't be dating someone new. It's just not fair to your new sweetie, and it won't help you get over your ex any more quickly. Do the right thing and break up with your current boyfriend or girlfriend. They deserve to be with someone who treats them like they're #1, not #2. Oct 26, Dating People After My Breakup Made Me Realize I Still Love My Ex. and I can honestly say I was never more sure that someone was my soulmate. We had a .
We broke up regularly, usually instigated by me, and one if the reasons for this was she always told me that we were worth it, we had something so special etc. Approx 16 months ago, she had sex with an ex boyfriend of hers who she told me that she once had string feelings for.
I was totally devastated and I finished with her because of this. She cried and begged me to take her back and was so sorry about what she had done.
Oct 24, But, if the reason you're still thinking about your ex is that you still have strong feelings for them - and you're basically using your new partner as a placeholder - that's not fair. It may. Dating someone new but still miss my ex - If you are a middle-aged woman looking to have a good time dating woman half your age, this advertisement is for you. Rich man looking for older woman & younger woman. I'm laid back and get along with everyone. Looking for an old soul like myself. I'm a man. My interests include staying up late and taking naps.
Like a fool, I took her back. The thought of her with somebody else when we were supposed to be the romance of the century broke my heart. It was always in my mind but she convinced me that it meant nothing. We split up in august for good and I can't believe how cold she was towards me.
The night before we split up, she begged me to stay and work things out with her. So cold and not bothered about me or what I was saying - I wanted to be back with her and she totally refused.
In hindsight I think it was because she had hitched up again with the person she had betrayed me with before. I'm so upset about how things have turned out with us. I wanted to move in with her and I treated her children as my own. There has been no contact from her for 2 months and I have ro accept that I'll never hear from her again.
The thing is, I would go back to her in a heartbeat even though she treated me so badly! Totally confused with my feelings.